If you haven’t managed to keep your New Year’s resolution to the one month mark, you’re not alone. Only eight per cent of people who make them keep them, and those who don’t typically last about a week. So, a lot of us suck at it. Let that be your permission to stop berating yourself. And if you are berating yourself, this post is for you.
The fact is, no matter how motivated, ready or able to push ourselves we are, an unrealistic resolution is doomed to fail. And it’s unrealistic to think that we can immediately rise above a habit we’ve spent maybe years establishing. That takes time, experimentation, knowing what doesn’t work and being willing to see your situation for what it really is. So rather than shaming yourself for not doing something right the first time and just saying “screw it,” you’ve got to be resilient enough to look at what you’re doing wrong, and know you’re strong enough to fix it.
That takes a positive self image, first and foremost! You’ve got to be on your side and stick by yourself, because at the end of the day the most supportive community in the world won’t be able to do the work for you. Here are three things you can do to keep up that positive self-image so you can work with yourself, not against yourself.